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posted by Soldier at 12:05 a.m.
I've dated white guys before and have had relations with them as well. My preference is black guys but I will do a double take or triple take if I see a sexy white guy walk by (well I'll do the double take with discretion...*LOL*). In fact, I did just that while working out at the gym today.This is an interesting debate because my friend Eugene says that as an American black man he can't relate to other American black men because they seem to only want to talk to you if they're getting something out of the deal. He feels that white guys are more sociable and will be more likely to carry a conversation for a length of time and then go about their business not expecting anything in return. He goes through phases where he'll refuse to speak to American black guys.For the most part, I agree to a degree but have found the same thing in some white guys as well. In their defense, though, I may have been looking for one thing as well.Yay to homoerotic European ads!!!
Good topic for discussion. All (5) of my relationships have been interracial. I have only hooked up with black guys. Needless to say, I don't have an issue with interrace dating. If either partner is fetishized then problems can come up. Other than that, " do you."
Those pics are hot, i'm salivating....maybe I should move to Europe, lol
Oui, je parles Francais, I can't spell the words correctly like I used to but I'm sure they won't mind when I strut my mocha cheeks, lol. Ca alors!! Lol...
Men are sexy...period. I have never dated anyone outside of my race but not because i refuse to. if presented with the right candidate I definitely would. No big deal *shrug*
Interesting topic. I hope my response doesn't go too long but don't want anyone to misunderstand me.I am black/dominican but grew up in Indiana. So of course I have dated white men. You almost had no choice. While there, I did notice some problems that arise:I sometimes have the one that wanted to date me as an experiment and treated me that way. Blacks and latinos were so far and few between that it was intrigueing to them just to see what it was like to brag about to their friends. I dated ones that I believed liked me and would honestly try to embrace my culture but would buy the most hideous gifts but think that it is ok because it has a person of color on it. I don't want a "mammy" doll. LOL This one wasn't so bad but it just seemed that the relationship was more about me being a person of color. I call this one color-struck. Then you have the ones that wanted me to turn my back on my culture altogether. They would become either jealous or embarrassed if I talked to anyone else of color. And they typically turned into the one that, well let's just say, SEEM to want to treat me like I was beneath them. As if they are doing some type of charity by going out with me. As if I was just their token black, bottom boyfriend or their big, black buck in an attempt to seem not so shallow to their friends.With that being said, I did meet some very nice white men that weren't about all of the craziness. And although it didn't work out we still love and respect each other.As I grow, I have noticed that the problems I mentioned above happen with interracial relationships no matter the race. And see how it can turn anyone off after dealing with it a few times. Do I think that is fair, not really. No matter your race, there are just some bad seeds in every batch.Now, I live in the NYC area and the mentality seems to be a lot better with regards to interracial relationships. But I find myself more attracted to people of color (blacks, latinos, asians, indians, middle eastern, etc). Don't get it twisted though, if I am approached by a white male that doesn't appear black-struck and is willing to give what I expect from anyone else, then I will definitely go for it.No matter the race, beautiful is beautiful. Especially if the inside matches the outside.
Hey Soldier, you'll be in NY? that's great, let me know the dates and feel free to email me: cathy@delaleuwritings.comA bientot!
I've never done interracial dating but I am open to the possibility. There are plenty of men of other races who have turned my head. I can’t say a white man has never hit on me. Unfortunately its usually ones that only see color and I see a problem with that. I have a special spot in my heart for Puerto Rican men but I’ve never been with one. And all white porn does nothing for me...lol.
always open to the possibility... sexy is sexy regardless of race
I wanna go to europe... wheni takemy leave we gotta go somewhere...
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I've dated white guys before and have had relations with them as well. My preference is black guys but I will do a double take or triple take if I see a sexy white guy walk by (well I'll do the double take with discretion...*LOL*). In fact, I did just that while working out at the gym today.
This is an interesting debate because my friend Eugene says that as an American black man he can't relate to other American black men because they seem to only want to talk to you if they're getting something out of the deal. He feels that white guys are more sociable and will be more likely to carry a conversation for a length of time and then go about their business not expecting anything in return. He goes through phases where he'll refuse to speak to American black guys.
For the most part, I agree to a degree but have found the same thing in some white guys as well. In their defense, though, I may have been looking for one thing as well.
Yay to homoerotic European ads!!!
Good topic for discussion. All (5) of my relationships have been interracial. I have only hooked up with black guys. Needless to say, I don't have an issue with interrace dating. If either partner is fetishized then problems can come up. Other than that, " do you."
Those pics are hot, i'm salivating....maybe I should move to Europe, lol
Oui, je parles Francais, I can't spell the words correctly like I used to but I'm sure they won't mind when I strut my mocha cheeks, lol. Ca alors!! Lol...
Men are sexy...period. I have never dated anyone outside of my race but not because i refuse to. if presented with the right candidate I definitely would. No big deal *shrug*
Interesting topic. I hope my response doesn't go too long but don't want anyone to misunderstand me.
I am black/dominican but grew up in Indiana. So of course I have dated white men. You almost had no choice. While there, I did notice some problems that arise:
I sometimes have the one that wanted to date me as an experiment and treated me that way. Blacks and latinos were so far and few between that it was intrigueing to them just to see what it was like to brag about to their friends.
I dated ones that I believed liked me and would honestly try to embrace my culture but would buy the most hideous gifts but think that it is ok because it has a person of color on it. I don't want a "mammy" doll. LOL This one wasn't so bad but it just seemed that the relationship was more about me being a person of color. I call this one color-struck.
Then you have the ones that wanted me to turn my back on my culture altogether. They would become either jealous or embarrassed if I talked to anyone else of color. And they typically turned into the one that, well let's just say, SEEM to want to treat me like I was beneath them. As if they are doing some type of charity by going out with me. As if I was just their token black, bottom boyfriend or their big, black buck in an attempt to seem not so shallow to their friends.
With that being said, I did meet some very nice white men that weren't about all of the craziness. And although it didn't work out we still love and respect each other.
As I grow, I have noticed that the problems I mentioned above happen with interracial relationships no matter the race. And see how it can turn anyone off after dealing with it a few times. Do I think that is fair, not really. No matter your race, there are just some bad seeds in every batch.
Now, I live in the NYC area and the mentality seems to be a lot better with regards to interracial relationships. But I find myself more attracted to people of color (blacks, latinos, asians, indians, middle eastern, etc). Don't get it twisted though, if I am approached by a white male that doesn't appear black-struck and is willing to give what I expect from anyone else, then I will definitely go for it.
No matter the race, beautiful is beautiful. Especially if the inside matches the outside.
Hey Soldier, you'll be in NY? that's great, let me know the dates and feel free to email me: cathy@delaleuwritings.com
A bientot!
I've never done interracial dating but I am open to the possibility. There are plenty of men of other races who have turned my head. I can’t say a white man has never hit on me. Unfortunately its usually ones that only see color and I see a problem with that. I have a special spot in my heart for Puerto Rican men but I’ve never been with one. And all white porn does nothing for me...lol.
always open to the possibility... sexy is sexy regardless of race
I wanna go to europe... wheni takemy leave we gotta go somewhere...
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